i did not anticipate how many comments writing a post about my ideal guy would invite. one part of me is happy to know people are reading what i write and taking the time to share their thoughts... another part of me feels like i need to clarify my last post by saying this:
just because i have a list of ideals i am looking for in a guy doesn't mean firstly, it's a hard and fast list, or that things can't change - that i can't change. and secondly, neither does it mean that i'm desperately on the lookout for a guy to meet those criteria.
many people also commented about love being all about looking past a person's weaknesses... sticking through thick and thin... not about being perfect but about making the effort... and all that. which is all well and fine, but what makes one guy different from the other, then? why not just settle for anyone who comes along? or the first one to come along?
why not? if finding my dream guy was my ultimate purpose in life, that would make sense. find a decent guy who's willing to work at a relationship... and work as hard as possible at it and have an incredible story to tell of how we stuck through thick and thin.
but that's not my ultimate purpose in life. i used to want to travel the world, influence people, and be a writer - but lately i have been challenged to give up those dreams. it's difficult, yes. but yet i'm discovering more and more that when you give up your own dreams and plans... God doesn't really take them away completely... but he gives you more than those things. i don't know where all the open doors and amazing opportunities life has brought my way is taking me... but i know it's leading me somewhere and there's no way i'm going to give up this amazing journey i'm on for some guy, no matter how great he is, if he's going to pull me away from where God has called me to.
also, finally, i've been told - don't have so many ideals - just find a man who loves God. but i truly believe that if a man was chasing God with all his heart, not just being a sunday christian, he would already meet most of the ideals on my list already.
and my question about asking for the moon? it was a rhetorical question. i know tons (okay, maybe not tons, but a handful at least) of amazing, passionate, God-loving and single guys who are doing things with their lives and making a difference wherever they are. i just don't know which one is for me... yet. ;)
and you know what? guys like that, who'd meet the criteria on my list? they're not the ones sitting around waiting for some dream girl to complete their lives either. yes, they might dream of her and wish they would meet her sooner - but regardless, they'd be out there, getting stuff done, discovering bit by bit what makes their hearts beat strong, making good use of time that doesn't have to be devoted to a partner, and growing more and more into the men they were meant to be.
just because i have a list of ideals i am looking for in a guy doesn't mean firstly, it's a hard and fast list, or that things can't change - that i can't change. and secondly, neither does it mean that i'm desperately on the lookout for a guy to meet those criteria.
many people also commented about love being all about looking past a person's weaknesses... sticking through thick and thin... not about being perfect but about making the effort... and all that. which is all well and fine, but what makes one guy different from the other, then? why not just settle for anyone who comes along? or the first one to come along?
why not? if finding my dream guy was my ultimate purpose in life, that would make sense. find a decent guy who's willing to work at a relationship... and work as hard as possible at it and have an incredible story to tell of how we stuck through thick and thin.
but that's not my ultimate purpose in life. i used to want to travel the world, influence people, and be a writer - but lately i have been challenged to give up those dreams. it's difficult, yes. but yet i'm discovering more and more that when you give up your own dreams and plans... God doesn't really take them away completely... but he gives you more than those things. i don't know where all the open doors and amazing opportunities life has brought my way is taking me... but i know it's leading me somewhere and there's no way i'm going to give up this amazing journey i'm on for some guy, no matter how great he is, if he's going to pull me away from where God has called me to.
also, finally, i've been told - don't have so many ideals - just find a man who loves God. but i truly believe that if a man was chasing God with all his heart, not just being a sunday christian, he would already meet most of the ideals on my list already.
and my question about asking for the moon? it was a rhetorical question. i know tons (okay, maybe not tons, but a handful at least) of amazing, passionate, God-loving and single guys who are doing things with their lives and making a difference wherever they are. i just don't know which one is for me... yet. ;)
and you know what? guys like that, who'd meet the criteria on my list? they're not the ones sitting around waiting for some dream girl to complete their lives either. yes, they might dream of her and wish they would meet her sooner - but regardless, they'd be out there, getting stuff done, discovering bit by bit what makes their hearts beat strong, making good use of time that doesn't have to be devoted to a partner, and growing more and more into the men they were meant to be.
Maybe it was not something that you wrote. Maybe it was the tone of the storyline. Maybe it was the invisible melodious chants embedded into that scholarly write-up of yours. Or maybe it was simply the blind emotional feelings of a reader. Nevertheless, something has awaken the readers.
ReplyDeletePerhaps, it is as simple as a drama pictured in a personal way. Very often, personal experiences are of great interest to many as the law of relativity applies. Fundamentally, it is human. Just simply human. One relates to stories, experiences, and fantasies. A bit too simple but true, as always.
And your story attracts those minds. Just because you are human. Just like everyone else.
Keep up the brilliant work.
thanks anon!
DeleteSo true Crystal. So true. I resonate deeply with you!
ReplyDeleteone day, when we have kids running around our ankles, we'll catch up and laugh about this season of our lives and all we are learning in it! :)
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